'Tis High to Be a Judge

Deep unmet needs. Pres. Kimball says that they are what sins result from. When we feel sinned against, we must ask ourselves, rather than choosing to be offended, “Does this action represent a deep unmet need?” Even though we feel hurt, does it follow that the intention was to hurt? Or even that if it was, that we have the right to feel offended, rather than to act compassionately?
Satan knows that sin occurs through unmet needs, and he takes advantage of that knowledge to tempt us into thinking that by doing thus or so, our needs will be met. There are people on the earth, but in much the smaller minority, who understand this also, and who take advantage of it. These people are perhaps past the unmet needs point, to deliberate choice, and are therefore truly wicked.
But come, we know our loved ones (they by whom we are tempted to be most offended) - we know that their desires are overwhelmingly good and righteous. Only God, indeed, only God, can judge the heart’s intent, so that we cannot even claim the truly wicked are wicked (unless as a priesthood steward one is inspired to do so) in the sense of standing as judge over them. How much less can we stand as a judge over a loved one, and claim in our hurt that he is wicked, to soothe our own hurts - our own unmet needs?
Surely this cannot be so. Thus, we see that ours is not to judge, not even to be offended. We can only take our hurts to the Healer, seek his grace in our behalf, and also in behalf of the offender, that we might be filled with grace toward him, and be a part of that healing balm of which he is in need.