Showing posts with label technology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label technology. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Impatient Italians and ugly Americans

Wonderful thing for Wednesday, 13 May:

Yesterday we were in the usual traffic here in Prato; I had just finished making a snide remark about someone honking at us because we had stopped to let someone in, in front of us ("Why exercise patience when you can be impatient?").  We found ourselves in a line of traffic at a red light.  I noticed an elderly gentleman walking along the sidewalk with a cane, far up the block.  A second later, he had stumbled and fallen into the grass beside the sidewalk.  I exclaimed to Blaine to pull over as soon as he got to a nearby driveway, but the traffic stayed where it was.  In the meantime, a woman on the sidewalk had stopped to help him.  I could see they were both struggling to get him back up and steady.  As the traffic began to move, and as Blaine was about to pull into the driveway, the two cars in front of us pulled over - in the traffic still - and two people hopped out to come to their aid.

We were deeply touched that so many people cared.  I said, "They might get impatient in traffic, but they're certainly willing to help a brother out."

Here in northern Italy, people in general seem weighed down by the economic state of things.  You hardly ever see a smile - unless you smile first and say hello; then you're very likely to get a relieved smile and a return greeting.  That little incident, though, humbled me.  As we drove on our way, I realized what I ought to have been aware of instantly:  that I could have jumped out of our car then and there, and run up the block to help.

These are good, good folks.  We're ever so glad to be among them.

fun thing:

This hearkens back to Mothers Day.  Amy and Lawton had skyped Sunday evening, and while I was talking to Amy, I got notice that a call from Jared was coming in.  I saw an option to just add him to the conversation, so I did.  I can't tell you how fun it was to talk to both of them at the same time, to be making family connections with a daughter in Spain and a son in Afghanistan.

Technology is a two-edged sword, but as I said on Facebook the other day after having done Facetime with my parents in Washington, UT on our iPads, "Sometimes I'm like Kip (reference to Napoleon Dynamite); I love technology."

Case in point:  took these photos of our iPad, with my cell phone!  As Elder Bednar said at a recent mission conference, these are tools that can be great instruments for good.  We can exercise our agency in that direction, and do a great work.  Amen.
 Ben, Bonnie and Grayson

Jesse, Rachel, Camden and Weston

Friday, February 6, 2015

This.is.really.big. "Infinite and Eternal" (Alma 34:10-14)

Wonderful thing for Thursday, 5 February:

Blaine has been working for weeks on his profile for mormon.org.  Yesterday he sent out lots of emails with a link to it.  Some of our children have shared the link on Facebook.

I am enjoying, especially on this mission, the happy harbors of our long voyage together, but sometimes along the way, I wondered why the Lord gave me his approbation to marry Blaine.  Then I would comfort myself by saying that only someone from a family as wonderful and strong as mine could help someone from a family so wounded and pathetic as his.  That was among the first of my own personal obstacles to overcome.  My sister shared with me how once, when Amy was about 16, she had said during a visit, "Your whole family is so stinkin nice!"

It's true, we are soooo nice.  But the "stinkin" part is true too.  When Blaine and I really started looking into the issues at the source of our family problems, my uncle, who was in recovery, warned me that I would have to accept that like people find each other.  In other words, if Blaine was broken, so was I.

Our kids started warning their friends that if they came to visit, they could expect some weird questions from Dad, one of which was, "Is your family dysfunctional?"  If the answer was no, we would just shake our heads for them - because they were in denial.

That's kind of a joke, because there really are functional families...somewhere...but the key, at least from our experience, is this:  functional families are just like dysfunctional families in that we all have problems; functional families talk about them and work to resolve them - that's what makes them functional.

We had so many years of pain.   For several years know, we have been experiencing more and more joy.  Blaine's post, and Tamra's FB post sharing the link, talk about some of the whys.  As for me, I've been working on the "stinkin" part, the part where you go beyond the superficial niceties and are willing to live real life.

Both our families, in fact, are becoming more functional.  It's a great, slow, painful, rewarding, joyful process.  "O the wisdom of God, his mercy and grace" (2 Nephi 9:8)!  "I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten" (Joel 2:25).

http://www.mormon.org/me/GPBT/Blaine
https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2006/04/broken-things-to-mend?lang=eng

fun thing:  We skyped with an entire branch council yesterday evening, in La Spezia, about a couple of hours away, sharing our Pathway ppt.  Technology is awesome!